SOFT SKILLED LIVING WORKSHOP
LESSON FOUR
THE EMOTIONS OF TRAUMA : PHYSICAL, EMOTIONAL and SPIRITUAL
“There are two big forces at work, external and internal. We have very little control over external forces such as tornadoes, earthquakes, floods, disasters, illness and pain. What really matters is the internal force. How do I respond to those disasters? Over that I have complete control.”
Leo Buscaglia, American Expert on Love, Lecturer, Author
‘The concept of total wellness recognizes that our every thought, word, and behavior affects our greater health and well-being. And we, in turn, are affected not only emotionally but also physically and spiritually.”
Greg Anderson, American Author of ”The 22 Non-Negotiable Laws of Wellness”
The first emotions that come to mind after a life trauma are fear, depression, anxiety, shame, failure, being an outcast, inferiority, hopelessness, rejection, ok. That’s enough……
The greatest victory of survivorship is winning the emotional war within. This hidden victory impacts the total healing of your body, mind and spirit.
The battles never stop. The fear never leaves. Every ache and pain will always set your system into a panic.
But to be victorious, you must stay focused on all the positive images, realities and relationships in your life. Once again, this is called visualization. My survival has been remarkable because of my ability to stay focused on forgiveness, thankfulness and hope.
Our minds are built to react in a constructive way to these three emotions (forgiveness, thankfulness, hope). Practicing a positive lifestyle using these emotional building blocks will insulate you (not isolate you) from the demons of despair. It takes practice my friend, but start converting those negative thoughts into positive images. Work hard, for this is where the victory lies.
Take time to list 3 ways you will transform your negative thoughts and emotions into positive ones?
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And remember; give yourself plenty of room to fail!!! (And when you do, laugh a little.)
Visualization utilizes your ability to intensely focus on positive images, realities and relationships in your life. When you are attacked by all the negative of this world, learn to plant your strongest positive image in your mind to win that battle. Stay focused.
List the weapons of visualization you will use as your first line of mental defense.
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What is your most positive reality in your life? ____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
What is your strongest positive relationship in your life? ____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
I will accomplish the greatest victory of survivorship by winning the emotional battle within.
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